Tuesday, March 31, 2009


I have had a few requests for how to perform a handfasting ceremony. Below is the exact wording and actions that happened. If you have any questions, please post a comment!

Declaration of Intent. A Scottish Hand Fasting Ceremony

Officiant: Know now before you go further, that since your lives have crossed in this life, you have formed ties between each other. As you seek to enter this state of matrimony, you should strive to make this real, the ideas that give meaning to both this ceremony and the institution of marriage.

Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?

Groom and Bride: We do.

Officiant: Groom and Bride, I bid you look into each other’s eyes.

Groom, will you cause Bride pain?

Groom: Yes

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Groom: No.

Officiant: Bride, will you cause Groom pain?

Bride: Yes.

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Bride: No.

Officiant: Will you share each other’s pain, and seek to ease it?

Bride + Groom:: Yes

Officiant: And so the binding is made. Join your hands.

(Place first cord across couple’s hands)

Officiant: Bride, will you share Groom’s laughter?

Bride: Yes

Officiant: Groom, will you share Bride’s laughter?


Officiant: Will you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?

Groom and Bride: Yes

Officiant: And the binding is made.

(Place second cord across the couple’s hands)

Officiant: Groom, will you burden Bride?

Groom: Yes

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Groom: No

Officiant: Bride, will you burden Groom?

Bride: Yes.

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Bride: No.

Officiant: Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

Groom and Bride: Yes

Officiant: And so the binding is made.

(Drape the third cord across the couple’s hands)

Officiant: Bride, will you share Groom’s dreams?

Bride: Yes,

Officiant: Groom, will you share Bride’s dreams?

Groom: Yes.

Officiant: Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes?

Groom and Bride: Yes

Officiant: And so the binding is made.

(Drape the fourth cord across couple’s hands.)

Officiant: Groom, will you cause Pam anger?

Groom: Yes

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Groom: No.

Officiant: Bride, will you cause Groom anger?

Bride: Yes.

Officiant: Is that your intent?

Bride: No.

Officiant: Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union?

Groom and Bride: Yes.

Officiant: And so the binding is made.

(Drape the fifth cord across the couple’s hands.)

Officiant: Bride, will you honor Groom?

Bride: Yes.

Officiant: Groom, will you honor Bride?

Groom: Yes.

Officiant: Will you make every effort to keep that honor intact?

Groom and Bride: Yes

Officiant: And so the binding is made.

(Drape sixth cord across couple’s hands)

(Pick up the cords, tie them in a knot.)

Officiant: This binding ceremony reminds us how your lives are held together, not by these cords, but by your vows. For these cords may be dropped without real harm, but the making or breaking of your union depends on how you maintain the vows you have made with each other today. May you be blessed to do so.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Bridal Registry Event: Pottery Barn Lincoln Park

If you are going to registry, it always pays to attend a registry event.  The stores are usually closed to regular shoppers so you get fantastic customer service.  Besides, who doesn't want some free hors d'oeuvres?

Friday, March 27, 2009

Free Photographer!

If you are on a budget, then you might want to head to Wrigleyville this Saturday! Serendipity Portraits is having a launch party.  The grand prize is a photography package for your wedding.


Thursday, March 26, 2009

1154 Lill Sale

Lots of Brides adore 1154 Lill.  If you do, I would schedule an appointment ASAP!

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

DIY Invitation Contest!

Do It Yourself Invitations is hosting a DIY invitation contest on their website until May 31st.

The winners will be picked by our lovely panel of judges - Rebekah Anne and Ami Elizabeth from Elizabeth Anne Designs, Sara Cotner from the $2000 Budget Wedding, and Marsie Sweetland from Smartbride.net.

Monday, March 9, 2009

CS Brides Magazine is now online

My favorite local magazine, CS Brides, is available online!  While I prefer the printed version, it is nice to be able to pop look up something very quickly.

Here is our ad!

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Last Minute Deals and Steals

I promised to post events two weeks in advance.  However, I just found some fun things to do this weekend.  Enjoy!

1154 Lill Studio Warehouse Sale

Saturday, March 7th from 8-12PM

1511 W. 38th St.


 Want a fabulous gift for your bridesmaids or a shower hostess?

Head to the 1154 Lill Studio Warehouse Sale. Ready-made bags from the favorite local designer will be discounted 50 percent to 80 percent. Fabrics are on sale, too.


Wedding Day Delights

Saturday, March 7th from 1-3PM

Paper Source in Lincoln Park


It's the little things that make your Wedding Day visually delightful: favors to savor, programs with panache, table settings that sing. Using Paper Source's beautiful array of papers, an assortment of embellishments and our stylish favor boxes, you'll create a mix of samples to take home with you for inspiration. Not only can you save money making your own wedding day delights, but you'll have fun doing it!


This is a Creative 200 workshop -- ideal for the intermediate student or the adventurous crafter.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Sell Your Dress

I have a confession to make.  I live in a one bedroom 750 square foot condo with my husband.  Space is tight.  Yet I cannot call up Davis Imperial to take my gown.  Correction.  I have called twice but have cancelled both times.  While I don't wear my dress around the house, I do look at it almost every day.

If you aren't like me and realize that you can live without seeing your gown, there are a few options to sell your dress.  My top favorite picks are White Chicago, Wedding Belles, and PreOwned Wedding Dresses.

PreOwned Wedding Dresses.com is a website that allows you to post your dress for $25 for up to 12 months.  The benefit is that it is very cheap.  The disadvantage is that you have to field all of the inquiries as well as the paymentand shipping of your dress.

White Chicago is a boutique that carries samples as well as worn gowns.  The owners are very selective about the dresses they accept.  They take a percentage of the dress selling price.  They offer the easiest way to sell your gown. 

Wedding Belles is a traditional consignment shop.  However, they also carry sample wedding gowns like White Chicago.  If you are interested in selling your gown, call them to set up an appointment.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Ask the Bee: Compromise with our wedding?

My fiance and I want to have a cocktail reception.  Both of our parents, who will be paying for the wedding, insist that we have a sit down dinner.  Are we stuck?

Why not do dancing between the courses?  Often referred to as a "New York style reception", dancing between the courses allows breaks to the very long dinner hour.

If you have never been to a wedding with dancing between the courses, you are missing out!  Once the first course is served, then the guests head out to the dance floor for the first dance set.  At our wedding, we kicked off the first set with the First Dance.  Each additional dance set was kicked off by a "special dance" such as a Mother/Son dance and the Anniversary Dance.  

It's a tremendous amount of fun although it does require additional costs.  Since the bar and the band never stop, there is usually some added hourly charges. Additionally, it does require a fair amount of coordination.

If you have a wedding related question, Ask the Bee.

Monday, March 2, 2009

New Blog: Chris + Flora

Flora is getting married this May in Chicago.  I adore her blog.  She doesn't write much text. Rather, she focuses on fabulous photos.  I think she is going to have a stunning wedding at Flatwater Grill.

Her ultra cute wedding website.  Check it out!
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