Friday, May 1, 2009

To Keep or Not To Keep?

Are you going to keep your maiden name?  It's a big decision for every bride.  

I was adamant that I would keep my name. At 31, I felt that I had been "Misse Daniel" for way too long to become "Melissa Jacobs".  I did consider using both names (hyphenating without the hyphenate) because I love the way our last names sound together.  That said, I opted to keep my name.  

I would more open to changing my name if the term "nee" was still around.  Nee?  It is a term used (pronounced "nay") that was used to indicate a maiden name e.g. "Michelle Obama nee Robinson".  I think it is a wonderful way to keep both names.  Plus, it could fit on a business card.  Here is a wiki post.

What do you think?

5 comments:

mk said...

I was having a hard time parting with my last name as well! So I decided, since I don't have a middle name, to make my maiden name my middle name and take his last name. This way it won't be hyphenated but I can still keep my "identity" that I have had for so many years. I'm not sure how common this is but I do think I've seen a handful of ladies do this.

~M said...

I kept my name, always knew I would (his mom did too). For our future kids, we are planning on using my last name as their middle names (yes, for all of them). We already have 2 boys' names and two girls' names picked out. I do kind of like the nee idea though.

Jay said...

I have a middle name, but like MK, I decided to incorporate my maiden name into my middle name and take my husband's last name for practical purposes (namely, children). That means I have four names, which seems like a lot, but I don't feel I've been subsumed by my husband's identity.

Misse said...

Thanks for these awesome responses.

What do you think about the term nee? Should it come back into everyday use?

Anonymous said...

I was certain that I'd keep my name too and then he asked me to take his; said it was really important to him. I never realized he cared about it. I'm taking his name.

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